Experts tend to offer great advice but when it comes to marriage nothing beats live-and-learn wisdom from other women. We asked four married women to share three words of wisdom with us and among them were respecting each other, settling disputes before calling it a night, serving each other, and avoiding making your husband your financial plan. Here are details of what they said:
- Every married woman must know why she is in marriage. As a helpmate you are in marriage to SERVE! SERVE!! SERVE!!! until your last name becomes SERVE.
- She must know her husband will not meet all her needs…but he will be strong in all those areas that he must be strong.
- Every married woman must know her own husband too well to know how to respect him. For example, the way I show respect to my hubby is different from the way I show respect to my brother, but they are both men and they blossom with respect!
N. O., Italy.
- A man is not our ticket to anything, even bringing precious munchkins into this beautiful world (as long as you have money, you can see doctors who can help you).
- They are definitely not a financial plan. We as women have come a long way to totally depend on men. That being said, men are very important in our lives, they provide warmth, and if lucky enough to find the right one, he will make your life very beautiful and you’ll be happy for the rest of your life.
- Respect yourself and your husband. That doesn’t mean you will never argue. I think even in “healthy” and “happy” relationships there are going to be disagreements and/or arguments, but it’s the way we carry ourselves during those testing times that matter because when all is quiet you will each go back and play and try to remember what was said. You don’t want to look back and deeply regret very hurtful things you said to one another. It’s very easy to have emotions take over but it takes self control. Just remember YOU don’t have to win all the time.
S.T, United States.
- Don’t try turning your spouse into something he’s not
- Treat his family just as you’d want him to treat yours
- Don’t go telling when he offends you especially to your parents/siblings/friends…some may hold it against him for life after you have forgiven and forgotten about it.
R.T, Ghana.
- A man is NOT a plan.
- Each day you have the choice of words and actions that will strengthen your marriage…or words and actions that will weaken your marriage.
- A quote I read awhile ago: To keep your marriage brimming….with love in the loving cup, whenever you’re wrong, admit it; whenever you’re right, shut up.
S.R., United States