Posted by admin on Mar 25, 2010 in
Uncategorized What is in a name? Does your name define you? Does your name make you feel uncomfortable?
One of the most important things about a person is his or her name. Our name is something we should be proud of, but that is not always the case. In some African households, there are teens and young adults not too fond of their African names, otherwise known as traditional names. I believe this discomfort is possibly rooted in a few reasons: shame of their heritage; people constantly mispronouncing their name; or desiring a Western name
The truth is that our names are a beautiful part of who we are; they also set us apart from each other. Your name does not define you. Just because you have the same name as someone else does not mean the person shares your identity; the name is simply a wrapper. The value of a package is not found in the wrappings but the contents. Similarly, your name does not affect your character or your worth as a person.
A name change does not change your worth or your character. All I know is that no matter what your name is, it does not change who you truly are deep inside. Learn to embrace your name and its uniqueness. There is no one like you. Be proud of who you are, and that includes your name
Tags: african names, importance of names, meaning of names, traditional names, uniqueness of names
Posted by admin on Mar 11, 2010 in
Uncategorized As a young African woman, I know how the weight issue plays a large part in how the African community views skinny women. I would like to expound further on the above statement.
In the African community, a plump woman is considered to be more beautiful as opposed to a skinny woman. As far as some Africans are concerned; if a woman is skinny then she probably is sick. This weight issue is even true when it comes to relationships.
Some African men tend to desire women who are more on the plump side than on the skinny side. I have heard some African men say things like: “I want something to hold on to” or “I do not want a skinny woman because I will break her when I try to hug her.” My heart goes out especially to married couples. I do not understand why a skinny married woman is supposedly not being treated well by her husband. It is not the same judgment passed if the married woman were plump. So some people in the African community have the skewed perspective that it is highly likely that a skinny wife will be neglected by her husband, whereas, a plump wife will be well taken care of.
Honestly, real women come in all shapes and sizes. As long as your health is not at risk, do not be ashamed of how God created you. No one has the right to judge you or try to change who you are. You are beautiful no matter your size.
Tags: african community, african men, skinny women, views of skinny women, weight issue